17
May
09

Dating and broke

As a self-employed single mom, money is tight. Actually, in this climate its fair to say that money is tight for everyone but I’m pretty much surfing the poverty line every day. I mean, I get by and my child is well looked after. The reasons that we are poor are that I bought a house and had to spend $12000 on a lawyer last year thanks to custody battle bullshit. But anyway, being broke is my reality right now, which is hard when dating.

On many levels, it is difficult to date when broke. Here’s what I need money for every time I date:

1) Babysitter. Before I’ve walked out my door I’ve spent $20 on childcare. If its a good date, that could be more like $50.

2) Haircut. Because although cutting my own bangs with kitchen scissors and sticky tape is fine for everyday mommy life, I do dream of presenting a more polished persona when meeting a man.

3) New tights/ stockings/ whatever. There is always one thing that my dream outfit needs in order to make me feel pretty.

4) Taxi fare home.

5) Money for beers/ dinner/ whatever. Of course I hope that my date might pick up the tab but you never know, so you need to be prepared. (For the record, I like it when men at least offer to pay, and not just because I am poor.)

Because of this, going on a date is never just an easy feat like it was in my carefree youth where (thanks to being a grunge girl) it was as simple as putting on some black eyeliner and strutting out the house looking carefully dishevelled, because I am supposed to look like a put-together woman in order to snare a man.

And now, because the date I am getting really excited for is in Vancouver (the traveling boy has returned to Canada and I am about to actually take our fling off-line and in to the real world!), I have that pesky plane ticket to cough up, and one for my child so that I can make this a combined custody visit for her and week of fun for mummy.

Dating is expensive, and unlike when you buy something tangible and know that you will be getting a certain value for that expenditure, you never quite know whether you’ll be getting any bang for your buck. Of course, not knowing what you will get and the hope that you will actually score something that money can’t buy is what makes this dating malarkey truly worthwhile.


2 Responses to “Dating and broke”


  1. May 18, 2009 at 4:38 pm

    I hear ya… hubby and I have tried to continue “date nights” since we feel it’s important to have some “us” time… I have pretty much the same expenses, babysitting is a bit more but I don’t always buy something new to wear. (Ha! You should be happy it’s clean!)

    I guess because we’re not trying to impress each other we go to the cheap theatre or we go out on a night that Boston Pizza has a special on… or we use a coupon. Even as I’m typing that I am knowing that if I were still out in the dating world I’d be all “how cheap are you!” if a guy tried to use a coupon, lol…

    • 2 oohlola
      May 19, 2009 at 10:19 am

      I wish it was socially okay to suggest a cheap date. Maybe in these times it might be okay to do so. Sometimes I suggest a mid-week lunch date just so I don’t have to get a babysitter!


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